Wednesday, February 17, 2010

we have a date...

BUT for right now i'm kind of calling it a tentative date...
here is the thing...
we were planning on having our teeny tiny ceremony
in May and a reception in September...
then i found out billy's 2 hockey teams start in May...

for new peeps....
billy is a hockey coach for 3-4 months of the year...
he is also a hockey skills coach year round...
on top of working his full time job...
which consist of 40 hours a week in the Winter months...
& 50-60 in the Summer months...

new plan...
we will hold off on the ceremony and have everything happen the same day...
Reception and Ceremony...
it will be much easier that way anyways!

we want everything outside...
we are planning this all on a shoestring budget...
my parents have a huge backyard and it is a good place for the reception...
the reception that we are no longer calling a reception...
it's a PARTY and we are hosting it as an OPEN HOUSE...
Appetizers and Drinks!
btw, ya'll are invited to stop by and say hi to celebrate with us ;)
anywho, by having the PAR-TAY outside @ my parent's home,
it will be F-R-E-E!
that spells FREE
(credit report dot com baby)

back on track...
we live in minn-es-snow-ta...
it is not warm here many months of the year...
we need to have the ceremony/party while it's still warm...
the first saturday in september is LABOR DAY weekend...
we said alrighty, second Saturday it is...
without at a calendar...
by then billy is done with his super-duper busy time of the year...
i was excited we had a date!
want to know that date?!?
September 11, 2010...
yep, it's 9/11...

i would like to know what you all think of that date?

i have told a few people of the date...
they think it's perfectly fine...
more so after i explain the reasoning...
should i have to explain.
do i need to explain why to everyone.

should we maybe have the ceremony
on that previous Friday so our actual wedding date is not 9/11?
it would be a hassle but i might be willing to do that.
i don't want to wait until the third or forth weekend in september either...
it could be snowin by then! ; )
i don't want to keep pushing the date back especially since we were planning May in the first place.
maybe i am being stubborn...
the tragic day happened almost 10 years ago.
i know that day will never be forgotten.
i also know people get married all.the.time.
there are so many tragic dates in history.
people get married on other significant dates.
it hasn't stopped them.

if you can't tell...
i am kind of torn...
thoughts and comments are welcome.
thank you.
have a great day!!
* UPDATE *
we have decided to have our very small ceremony on september 10th.
the outdoor open-house reception will take place on september 11th.
:)

97 comments:

Lauren @ Dreams Take Flight said...

So exciting that you have a date! I don't think you should worry that it's 9/11...on a day that is so sad for a lot of reasons, I think it would be nice to have LOVE to celebrate! :)

Heather said...

So exciting you have a date, I think it's a great date.

All About Aleigha said...

Just because something sad happened on that date doesn't mean something great can't happen also. And besdies it works for you. Congrats on setting a date.

AmberDenae said...

Girl, I don't think you should worry about it being 9/11 at all. It works for you guys and you shouldn't have to do any explaining. It was a very tragic day that will be historic for all of time. However, this date works perfectly for you and that is all that matters. So excited for you!

Marian said...

9/11 was a tragedy, but you know what, it will mean something completely different to you now!!! I don't think that should stop you. It sounds like the perfect time and the past shouldn't hold you back!!! So exciting!!!

However, should you change, I hear September 25 is a good date as well;) We could be getting married at the same time..hahahaha

xoxoxoxoxo

Jordan said...

Yay for having a date! I think it's perfectly alright to get married on 9/11. It's YOUR guys' date! I so wish I could come. I know it will be beautiful! :-)

carrie1 said...

September 11th is a great day!

It's a day of remembrance. People got married on that day before the tragic accident, so I think it's fine. =)

Neely said...

Congrats on setting the date. I think it doesnt matter a bit if its 9/11! Its your day :)

Shay said...

John and I actually did the whole lets pick a weekend in September and the first one we landed on was September 11. When we realized it we changed it to the next weekend, which happens to be my nephews birthday. Johns bday is Sept. 12 his dads is the 25th and my nephews and now our anniversary will be the 18th...

I think that if you and Billy are comfortable getting married on 9/11 then go for it. It is your wedding and the only people who need to be happy with the date are you and him... *and of course your parents since you're using their yard.*

kimber doll said...

I wouldn't worry for a second about the date! Life's all about moving on and being resiliant! We still hold special occasions on other conspicuous dates in history, this one's just a litte more recent .. if it works for you then do it!!
I still need to get around to setting a date with my fiancee ...

Mandy said...

I think it's okay because you live in Minnesota. I live outside of NYC and 6 people from my small town were killed...so people might have a problem with it out here. But you living so far away should be fine. And it's your day, you shouldn't have to explain anything to anyone!

Aishlea and Brandon said...

I wouldn't change it just because of the date. My Dad's bday is 9/11 and I just view it as a reason to celebrate his birthday even more...because he's here!! And you will have a reason to remember the date in a positive way too! :)

Jenn said...

I would say stick with it! You can consider doing the ceremony Fri night but if you wanna do it all Sat then do it! Ya its a weird date, but so be it. Make the best of it!

Kristen said...

I don't think that you should worry about the date at all. It was a tragic day in history, but what better way to remember than to be with those you love, celebrating LOVE and LIFE!

Crazy Shenanigans said...

That's great that you have a date! I don't think there's anything wrong with having it on that date. It's a happy celebration and I don't think there's ever a day wrong to do that.

Katie@The Baby Factory said...

From my experience.....Labor Day weekend is actually a fantastic weekend to get married, did it myself. For a couple of reasons, if people need to travel to get to your wedding, they may stay around and visit with your fam. That's kinda nice. PLUS then your anniversary is always super close to a 3-day weekend.

Kelly said...

I think, personally, that you should do it on 9/11 even though it is known to be a sad day. I think it is a good reminder that bad things can happen to us, but out of all of it love survives/remains. Good Luck!

Lucy Marie said...

I don't tihnk you should change it. It's the day that works and you should celebrate that!

Katie@The Baby Factory said...

And about the 9/11 thing.....it would be a hang up for me. Not that it does for you, but it's YOUR day...and every time you say September 11 what pops in your head? A tragedy. I'm not supersticious at all, and I'm not saying that it would be any kind of jinx, but I personally would do it the night before or SOMETHING....just me.
Sorry again, I disagree with the majority, but it would be a problem for me.

Nicole-Lynn said...

That's great news you set a date! I think the date is fine. People will remember it :) I have a friend who is also getting married on that day.

Adorably Distracted... said...

I think that date is perfect!! Our Anniversary is the 12th!!! So glad it all worked out!! :-)

Megan aka Mommy, Mom, Honey, The Boss... said...

I think that date is fine, and no you don't have to explain why to anyone :) Congrats, and good luck with everything! I undertsnad the weather I am a Minnesota girl too!

KLaw said...

Go for it. Make that a day of celebration instead of a day of mourning and sorrow. I love it!

Kara said...

Go for it girl! I am glad you all set a date and I don't think you need to explain yourself!
Oh, and the day after is my b-day so I think it is a great time of the year!

Charis said...

Honey that post was HILarious.

And about the date, don't worry about it! Maybe you could include a little moment of silence in your ceremony for the date, but I say that a day like that which holds so many yucko feelings needs some love put into it, so make that your intention, and say so! Mention it! It'll be lovely :)

Becky said...

I think that September 11 will be FINE! Sure, it is an important date in history, but it is just that, history! It shouldn't get in the way of a glorious wedding! You should look at it is adding something joyous and happy to what some may think of as a gloomy day! You are rewriting history and making it the best day of your life! I think it is perfectly fine! Congratulations on setting a date!

Becky said...

Plus, people will remember your anniversary! ;)

Summer {Bisfor...} said...

right around the corner, darlin!

M said...

I think it is a great!

Danielle said...

I don't think there is anything wrong with getting married on 9/11. It was a sad day, but in the long run, it's no different than getting married on Pearl Harbor Day. It's your wedding, do what you want!

By the way, I planned my wedding on a very small budget too. You're welcome to email me if you want any of the online vendors that I used for bridesmaids gifts, dresses, accessories, cake topper, etc. d.dyrda@yahoo.com

Yankee Girl said...

Get married on whatever day works best for you. Your day will be special no matter the date. Yes, 9/11 was a bad day in American history, but make 9/11 a great day in YOUR history.

Shanna said...

Don't change it. I almost booked ours on 9/11, but then ended up booking 8/28...and now you see we've bumped it back to the following May....so it sounds like we're in the same boat! Everyone asked me why I was picking 9/11 and I was like seriously get over it!

Katie said...

9/11 needs some love! And I think you and Billy can make it a great day!

Lori said...

If it was me, I would go ahead with that date. It was a very sad day. I think it would be neat to have something so special to remember that date by!

Michely Medeiros. said...

im soo excited you found a date!!!! yay!!! i wouldnt worry about it being 9/11... i agree with katie above 9/11 needs some love :D

Shayla said...

Sista, it's YOUR wedding date!

People have kids, buy homes, and get engaged on that day ALL THE TIME.

As long as your HEART is in the right place who gives a crap!

If you lived in NYC that would be a completely different story, but you don't so there's no need to get weary about it!!

I agree SO MUCH with the comment you left me! Wh cant they stop asking questions and just be happy for us??!?!!?!?!?!!!! haha :D

Jenni said...

I think its a great day! Turn it into a positive and celebrate life. There may be a comment or two when people recieve their invites, but that will be the end of it....and you may not have to compete with other brides who may not choose that date because of the superstition. :)

Katy Mary said...

Planning must be so exciting! I don't really know what to say about the date, I'm from NY so 9/11 will always be tragic for me. If you are OK with it there is nothing wrong with having your wedding on that day! It's really all about being able to push aside the sad connotation and make it a happy day for you guys! Good luck with your decision :)

Rasha said...

howwww exciting!!

THE Stephanie said...

oh sweetie, personally, I'm not sure I would worry about it. I mean, you're right, people get married all the time. BUT, it's YOUR day, and if it will bother YOU, then I would change it.

It's all about YOU and no one else! So do whatever make YOU comfortable!!

I wish I lived closer! I would totally stop by the PARTY!! :)

Patience said...

Exciting to have the date set. I think it is a perfect date.

Mitzi G.!! said...

Oh I wish I lived closer.......I would totally stop by if I did!! I wouldn't stress about the fact that it is 9/11; it is going to be your wedding day & a great day for you!!

Hayley said...

I think it would be fine. Enough time has passed. And he'll never have an excuse to forget your anniversary! But you should do whatever you're comfortable with. Have you considered having your ceremony on a weekday-- like maybe a holiday that people have off? Or in the evening, when people get off work? And then have the PAR-TAY on the eleventh :) Just a suggestion. I didn't read through the comments, so maybe someone already said that!

SG said...

I think that date is fine. Now it will have a happy memory surrounding it rather than a sad one. I don't think it should be off limits for celebrations. Good luck with all the planning sounds like it will be a great party!

Geezees Custom Canvas Art said...

that's so exciting you picked a date!!!

The Rest is Still Unwritten said...

I think you are perfectly fine with that date. Yes, it was a very sad day that will never be forgotten, but it can also be a great day that will you will never forget! Go for it!

Mrs EyeCanSee said...

That's exciting to finally have a date in mind...makes is seems so much more real for you! And I wouldn't worry about the date being 9/11....if I had been personally affected (which thankfully I was not) I would want people to celebrate on that day for all the lives lost!

KC said...

I'm excited that you narrowed down a date! Don't worry about it being 9/11. My cousin's daughter was just born on 9/11 this year, even though they tried SO hard to induce labor the day before. Though it was a tragic day, it will be remembered by you and your family as YOUR special day. Good luck!!!

Brown Girl said...

I wouldn't worry about it being on 9/11. Have it on the day that works best for YOU. We are having ours on a Friday to save $$. No one seemed to even care! Or at least no one has told me that they cared. Do what makes the both of you happy, no matter when or where!!

Brittany said...

I know 9/11 means a lot to people, but 9/11 is also people's birthday's, wedding anniversaries, not just a day of tragedy. So I say go for it. It's your day and it will be filled with happniess, laughter and love. After all, your day may make people happy instead of sad that it's 9/11.

Kerry said...

I think it's fine! If you think about it, there's probably osmething bad that's happened every single day of the year, just not so big, so whatever you choose would be a bad day! Just go with what you want :) xx

Juliana said...

Woo hoo! A Date!!! YAY!

Ok...well babe, you won the BURBERRY SCARF!!!! I am about to post a blog now, but I just wanted to let you know. Email me survivorjewels@gmail.com with your info

Ams said...

I know you already know this but you do NOT have to explain yourself. It is going to great!!!!! No explaining, soak this up and ignore all the rest. It's your guys' day and you can do as you please :)

Ashley @ KiwisandCocktails said...

First, I think you should have both reception and ceremony the same day! JUST my personal preference! I think guests would like that too! :)
ANd for the date- I AM going to a wedding this year on Sept. 11. I also know other people who share that date as a wedding anniversary..and Birthdays. I mean, September is a great time for weddings (in our states that have winter and cold) and it just stinks the best Saturday of the month to get married falls on that date. I say, DO IT! I dont find it weird at all.

Blair @ Reasonably Swanky said...

I think it's fine if it's on September 11th. Say September 11, 2010 never 9/11 then no one will probably notice.
I did a very small wedding and was so much happier. I originally planned this big soiree but then realized half the people that were invited weren't even my friends or close to me so we changed the guest list and trimmed it down to about 60-70 and I could not have been happier. I also opted for no bridesmaids. Talk about STRESS FREE!!!!
Can't wait to hear more details!
xoxo
Blair

Katie said...

As long as the date doesn't bother you, that's all that matters :) But even if doesn't exactly bother you, are you always going to be worrying about what others think about that being your chosen date? Because then you might want to do it a different day- only because you should have nothing that might cloud the amazingness of your wedding and marriage. But here's something kinda cool- it will be 9/11/10, that's a good lookin' date :)

If you still aren't feeling 100% about it, what about the last weekend in August- the 28th? I hope you find something that works for you!!!

Ashley said...

I think it's fine. It's your day and if you and Billy are fine with that day and it's the day that works best for you, then I would just go with it. Most people will refer to it as Sept. 11th, not 9/11. We got married on 8/2 but I always say August 2nd, not 8/2. How exciting to have a date!!! :)

Rasha said...

make the day a happy day!

Selma said...

I think it's a great date!
And I'm so excited for you hun.

xoxo

OceanDreams said...

I think that even though 9/11 is labeled as a day of tragedy, that it also can be a day of hope and love too. I agree that it is just a date and that is that. I think you should be aware that people WILL ask questions though, which kinda stinks. You will have to explain just because you chose that date, which it shouldn't be that big of deal but it might be, you know what I mean? Sorry if I am rambling, ultimately choose what makes you happy and a date is just a date regardless. XO!

Suzanne said...

My bestie's fiance's friend (you follow that) is getting married that day and while it weirded me out for abotu 5 seconds I then realized that it was takiing a day that is assocaited with tragedy and giving it a new meaning for the couple. Think of it this way, would you stop celebrating your birthday if you were born on September 11? I think not :)

Annie said...

The date is fine..NO, you do not have to explain yourself at ALL! I have a friend and her birthday is that day and she is alwayd feeling bad about celebrating.....YES, it was tragic....but we must move on!
I am so excited for you. It will be great to have the ceremony and PAR-TAY on the same day!!

Sarah Ann said...

Personally I don't think I could do it. But for me 9/11 is a little more personal because my grandfather died 5 days later.
I say do whatever you want. If that's what works for you, that's what works for you.

Lyr said...

You will be fine. It's a good date and you will always remember it. It's your chance to make it a HAPPY day!

brown eyed girl said...

I will never forget 9/11 and I believe our country needs to move on and focus on the good and beautiful that is within our territory. What better way to transform that date into something beautiful than to get married on that day?! Go for it!!

Tara Gibson said...

i think the date is perfectly fine.its yalls special day!!!

Alison said...

I'm Canadian so 9/11 doesn't have the same meaning to me that it does to most Americans. Although I do recognize that it was an absolute tragedy, I think you should get married whatever day works best for you! It hasn't always been just a day of tragedy. Other people have gotten married that day and babies have been born that day. Plus, now it will be your anniversary and that's not a sad thing at all! :)

Caroline said...

I can def see your dilemma, but really, if you are okay with it then that is all that matters! Make 9-11 a day to celebrate and not to mourn! :)

Ela said...

Oh sweetie, there is absolutely nothing wrong with making September 11th your special day. It was a great tragedy but from that came strength, kindness and hope. I know you and Billy will have a gorgeous day, no matter what date you choose :)

Amber said...

We changed our wedding date 4 times to try and accomodate different people and chose a date that didn't remind us of anything and in the end, I honestly wished I had gone with my original date. So my suggestion to you would be if Sept 11th works for you, then do it. It would be wonderful to have something to celebrate on that day each year....you could even have some type of small memorial at the ceremony as quite gesture.

PS - I puffy heart your blog!

d.a.r. said...

I think that the date is totally fine and you don't need to explain it to anyone!!! Life goes on, it is meant to be lived and cherished. If 9/11 taught us anything, it is live our lives to the fullest and love deeply as much as you can, while you can. A wedding with an open house and all of your friends and family is the perfect occasion, don't you think?

Congrats on setting a date!!!

Brittany Ann said...

I think it's totally fine. It's an important date for our country, but so are a ton of other dates and people celebrate weddings on them, too! Go for it!

Cassie said...

If you're comfortable with the date, then go for it! It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks because for that one day, it's all about you and your hubby!

sHp said...

Hi, sweetie :) I say go with the day y'all want. While it was a tragic event in US History, those involved would never want anyone sitting around, feeling bad, but rather I'm sure they would be happy to know a great couple like y'all are uniting in marriage :)

Hope you're having a great night! I think I might hit the sheets early :)

chelsea said...

Awe, congrats! I think the date is perfectly fine! I can't say it any better than all your other comments :) congrats!

Sweet Simplicity said...

I see how you would think twice about it. I think that we as a country have to remember the day, but we also have to move past it and can't be controlled by something done by terrorists. I think that you could make 9/11 a very special day for you. Plus, you don't have to go around saying our wedding is/was on 9/11. You say September 11. I think that makes a huge difference in the meaning. Whatever day you choose it will be magical!

Maryellen said...

Congratulations on setting a date! I think you should get married on whatever day works best for you guys.

Kristin said...

I don't think that anyone that died on that horrific day, their families, or any of the survivors would want to hold anyone back from having a great experience, like your wedding, on that day. It's just giving the terrorists more power! Go for it! I got married on 9/13 so we'll almost be wedding twins. :)

Gwen said...

You shouldn't worry about the date and what other people think. It's your big day and while we will always remember what happened that day other memories need to be formed too. I got married on my Aunt's birthday and she had passed away before my wedding date. I worried about changing it for my family but I'm glad I didn't. Congrats again sweetie!!! XOXO

Christa said...

So exciting you have a date! :)

Katie said...

I think it would be totally fine to have it on 9/11! Excited for you, girl!

DREW'S MOM said...

I say if you and B are fine with it, then go for it! it's YOUR wedding.. it will be YOUR anniversary every year on that date. Personally, I think it's totally fine.. Good luck!

Lil' Woman said...

I say if you guys are cool with it then go for it. I personally didn't want mine on that day but I was happier having a august wedding.

Like everyone else said you can turn a bad day into a beautiful day and have something wonderful to look back on, on that day.

I say go for it.

Amber said...

I agree with the other comments I've read. It's YOUR wedding, get married on the day that works for you and Billy and DON'T feel like you have to explain yourself to anyone. Congrats on picking a date, pretty girl! XOXO

mrs. b. said...

YAY! pretty awesome that you picked a date-i say go for it! it's your wedding day so you have to pick what works best for you! :)

Julie (brown eyed belle) said...

Yay, how exciting! I say go with it! It's YOUR date now!!

saucyminx410 said...

I think that life has to go on and that making that your date should be perfectly fine. It will give 9/11 a new meaning to you now!

bananas. said...

I think the date is fine...and i like the idea of having a party as opposed to a reception. Just sounds like much more fun.

Llama said...

I don't think there is anything wrong with putting a positive on that date. I also second the idea of focusing more on September 11, 2010 as opposed to 9/11. Good luck sweetie...i hope it all works out!

jennster said...

i think what matters is how 9/11 makes YOU feel. will you be able to associate it with anything other than what happened that day?can you make it be the day of your wedding, or will you always think of "9/11" in the back of your mind?? hell, my birthday is the day after 9/11 and i always think of what happened that day....

if i got invited to a wedding on 9/11 i wouldn't think anything of it- like i wouldnt' think it was weird, or disrespectful.. BUT i would think about 9-11 and how their anniversary would always be on the day that first makes me think of other things.

good lord... i'll shut up now. lol

Monique-aka-Surferwife23 said...

Hi Annie!

I'm new around here but wanted to throw in my 2 cents (though with 91 comments ahead of me, this has probably already been said).

Ok, so I would be torn too. But that's just me and find absolutely nothing wrong with your anni being 9/11. But I get what you are saying. So anyways, I got married on a Friday evening with my reception right after and I LOVED it. It was nice to have the whole weekend to recuperate vs just Sunday, if that makes sense?

Something to consider anyway.

Becca said...

I can definitely see why you are torn. 9/11 was a terrible tragedy and I am pretty sure that none of us will ever forget it. BUT you have found that that date will work best for you two. You will turn a day of sorrow into a day of happiness for your family and friends! GO for it girl!

Semi-Slacker Mom said...

Y'all are so cute! And think Sept. 11 is a fine day. It's a friend of mine's bday. Your par-tay sounds fabulous!!! I had mine at my parent's house (lots of people in the South do)!

BTW, I love the credit report commercial.

Jules said...

I think it’s great that you’ll be able to have the ceremony and reception/party the same day. I get where you’re coming from about 9/11 and think its’ sweet how sensitive you’re being about the day.

Like you said, I am sure many other weddings/baptisms/etc. happen on days that tragic events happened and it hasn’t stopped them. I think that it will be fine :)

Ashley @ Ramirez Family said...

I think the date is fine. It shouldnt matter to anyone else in the world but you. It will be YOUR day...so if you do not mind your anniversary on 9.11, then that is YOUR choice! You do what you want to do. Good luck =)

A Real Housewife said...

i know, i'm waaaay late on responding to this, but better late than never. right? =) you should definitely get married and have the 'open house' on the same day...no matter what day that happens to be. that day will never be forgotten, clearly for all the tragedy but remember how much americans came together, too? you are celebrating life and happiness on a very special day!

Coleman said...

Congrats on setting the date. I think it doesnt matter a bit if its 9/11! Its your day :)

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