I don’t usually come to my blog with personal issues/drama but I’ve got something sitting heavy on my heart and mind that I just have to get out.
If you have been following my blog for a while you will have noticed that I used to spend a lot of time with my nephew, Dominic. Last year, Billy and I would watch him every Wednesday and he would come over to play and spend the night often. We have always been close to Dominic, in part because he lived at our house for over a year and because we used to spend a lot of time with my brother and him. Billy and my brother became good friends when he lived with us so we were just always together. Dom’s mom worked opposite schedules of all of us but when we could all 5 hang out, we did.
Going back 4 years…
My best friend lived with me at the time, Billy had just moved in as well. My brother was over visiting and us 4 were all hanging out having drinks on the deck. My brother and my bestie had only met a few times, at the time my brother and my bestie were 21. Well, those two ended up inside the house at the same time and I guess they kissed. It was nothing more than a peck. BUT my brother was with Dominic’s mom at the time and she was pregnant. What my bestie and brother did was wrong. They both knew it was wrong and my brother told D’s mom and my bestie also apologized over and over. They made a really stupid mistake. Neither of them have been forgiven nor has this been forgotten.
Fast forward 4 years…
Dominic’s mom will not let him come to our house anymore. She says it’s because of what happened 4 years ago. She thinks my bestie might be at my house. Although my bestie moved out of the state 6 months ago and lives over 4 hours away. I think Dom’s mom has lost it. It’s just not fair and it breaks my heart that she keeps this little boy from two people that love him like he was their own. We saw him learn to crawl and walk and talk. When they lived with us his bedroom was right next to ours and I would go get him all the time to play with him, feed him, anything….I just loved being with him. My brother and Dom's mom both worked full time so whenever we could help out, we would.
Last year Billy and I used to watch Dominic every Wednesday and they also used to come over for game night and to hang out and spend the night. It was never a problem then for Dominic to be at our place without his parents. Dominic’s mom and I actually used to be pretty good friends too. We have always gotten along no matter what drama has come up.
For mine and Billy's wedding, we only had immediate family. The wedding started at 4:30 and she knew that, she knew for a while. She had the day off. She showed up at 5, after the ceremony. Of course she had Dominic with her so he missed our wedding as well. She has no explanation for being the way she is. If you ask me, she is rude and very selfish. Once they were there, she immediately got upset with my brother and said her and Dominic were leaving. Nothing had even happened; she just loves attention and starting drama. I got upset and almost started crying because I didn’t want Dom to have to leave, I wanted him there on that special day. My brother convinced her to stay and the rest of the night went fine. Although neither Billy or I talked to her. I was so upset that she couldn’t show up on time in the first place and then just threaten to leave with Dom. I wasn't rude to her but I think she felt a bit dumb for acting the way she did and she kept to herself most of the night.
A few weeks later when she found out I was pregnant, all she said was “wow, that happened quick”. No congrats or anything.
After Dominic’s birthday in September she de-friended me and blocked me on facebook. I have NO idea what I did or anything. I thought everything was fine at Dominic’s party. Ever since then I haven’t talked to her. She was over at my parent’s house on Halloween and we didn’t exchange a word. She is friends with everyone else in my family on FB including Billy.
She didn’t come for Thanksgiving this year but at least Dominic was there.
Then a few weeks ago I asked my brother if Dominic could spend the night because Billy and I hadn’t seen him in a while. My brother said he could and then he texted me a few hours later and said that he couldn’t. I didn’t even need to ask why. I just cried about it. I knew it was his mom’s doing. Billy ended up talking to my brother to see what the issue was. And that is when I found out that Dominic’s mom said he wasn’t allowed at our place because of one of my best friends and something that happened 4 years ago. Or so she says...
I was at my parent’s house yesterday and I was getting ready to leave I noticed they had a Christmas card with pictures of Dominic. Guess who didn’t get that Christmas card? Yeah, me and Billy.
I’m so hurt, angry, and upset by what she is doing. No one in my family gets it, or gets her. I am going to confront her about this soon because I don’t think her actions are fair in any way and I think there is something more to this.
I got to see Dom last Wednesday because she lets him go to my parent’s house. We all baked cookies and had a fun night over there. If she thinks she can keep him from me, that is not going to happen.
The other thing is, I feel bad for my brother. She puts him in the middle of all of this. They have lived together for over a year now, I just pray all is going well between the two of them and that they have a happy little family.
I apologize for the long post. I’m sure it was all over the place and doesn’t make much sense but I feel better just writing about some of this situation.